Sometimes, the comments are a lot more provoking than the posts are. At least to me.
This morning, there's a great example of that.
The post reads, "I
fucked my neighbor's dog. I enjoyed it very much." While I find that morally reprehensible and sick - I'm totally fine with that going on the site. PChis and I, and later TintedFragipan and I, got into
discussions over that going on the site. And during those concurrent discussions - comments started flying up. One of which declared that we should censor it. Obviously, that person didn't read our censorship policy (aka we don't censor except when names are used for the purpose of defamation - or in the case of teachers*).
The comment that got to me though, and that the two admins posted replies to, was the one declaring our site is less credible for allowing that post to exist.
Let's imagine for a moment: I'm a regular Enloe student who heard about this website from a friend. I had a really crucial secret that I had to share and I knew this was the perfect place to do it. This was my dream come true.
The first thing that I see when I get on the site is this post. I am disgusted and this site's credebility is severly compromised. Do I really want to be sharing anything with these sickos? I will never come back. I will tell all of my friends to stay away as well.
Moral of the story: Some things are better left unsaid.
Honestly, that's one of the most close-minded things ever said on this site. So congratulations to that commenter. Not that they'll read this if they're never coming back. But kudos all the same. On previous posts, the commenters who were called closed-minded are nothing compared to you. At least they were open-minded enough to debate the people on the other sides of the various issues. They're weren't going to listen to them (or even think of changing their opinions), but at least they engaged them.
Tangst, its administrators, its contributors, its regular posters, and most of all its creator (namely, me) pride themselves on the fact that the site posts
everything, no matter how sick or twisted or wrong it seems to any individual. The fact is, if it's a valid secret, confession, poem, statement of emotion, whatever, it will be posted. And then promptly commented on. The only things we delete are spam. And those are really damned obvious because they're always trying to sell something or promote a site.
If that commenter's secret was as crucial as they thought it was - the bestiality post wouldn't have scared them away. Because the point of the site is to help yourself. I know everyone enjoys reading other people's comments - I do too - but the purpose is to get the release of knowing your secret is out there.
I'm glad that person's not coming back. If I knew who it was in real life, I'd probably want to fight them. Instead, I just feel sorry that they can't deal with two simple sentences. If any of that makes me a bad person, well, I can deal with that and I'll happily accept it as a consequence.
The post itself will probably cause a high level of controversy. It may even be more "popular" than the one by the guy that hates gay people. But the fact is, it belongs. If the site loses posters and commenters for it, I'm sorry, but it's staying.
Everyone should feel free to post whatever it is that's on their minds. Not everyone will agree with it. I may not agree with it (that's happened a couple of times, actually). But it will go on the site. And that's a blanket rule.
P.S. I don't think there's such a thing as a "regular" Enloe student. We're all pretty offbeat in our own way.
P.P.S. Also, on the credibility issue - I think the site
gains credibility every time a highly controversial post goes up. It reinforces the fact that we do welcome everything. From every point of view. No matter what.
P.P.P.S. Lastly, that the commenter spelled "credibility"
and "severely" incorrectly just really bothers me. If you're going to flame the site, do it properly with capital letters and bold words that show just how mad you are. Use correct English (spelling, grammar, mechanics) as well. Otherwise, we're just going to laugh at how sad you must be.
* Teacher Exception: The Dr. Hoffman post. The only reason his name is still there is because he approved it. Which was really nice of him.